The agonizing transition that came with the pandemic.

“Transitions are good, positive”. I’d like to tweak that a bit. Transitions are good ,iff one is in the right mindset to accept it wholly. Else, it can leave you racking and ruminating for days together.

The transition that is in point here is the very “new norm” – WFH(work from home). It’s been almost 7 months that we are into this trend now, yet some of us haven’t been able to get a hold of it. When I say some of us, I’m mostly referrring to working mothers who have a greater responsibility of handling little minds at home and big minds at work. 😀

The day my Team Lead sent a text on the office WhatsApp group, it was almost as if it dawned my whole spirits upside down. It read – “mail has come for WFH: Coronavirus – Update from the Taskforce” (P.S : I’d already started to miss office.) and it took me hours for that to totally sink in. A first thought however was that it’s not gonna last long and we’ll all be back at work in no time. But to my dismay, there came another shocker – “The Lockdown” For a month or so, I still believed that we’d go back soon but no, corona was here to stay which meant I was gonna be in trouble!

I worked with some sort of a zeal for a few weeks, the focus gradually started to shift off from work to kids to cooking to chores. At first, I set a routine which obviously didn’t last very long( did last 3 months though :D). Just when I thought that things were falling in place, there was a storm that lashed me out. “Online classes” for the kids. Like the already existing shenanigans weren’t enough, this came up as another dare. Office work+Meals+online classes + chores +self care. No way, I would pull this off and be sane.

Weeks passed and now, routine’s a mess, mind unstable like never before, out of focus , appetite lost , sound sleep only a dream and the voices in my head screaming in the highest possible pitch. To add to this, there were lost friendships, betrayals, and hurt to be dealt with. I’ve stopped talking to friends, I don’t want to step out, I am the most temperamental mom you’ll find out there. Yet, I manage to keep the show running because, I can.

Thanks to a few friends and my mom(for her timely enlightenment on anything under the sky) who helped keep my sanity in place all these months, and ofcourse the little humans around me who give me nothing but love. ( And tantrums, too :D) To all the women who’re living through this, my hats off to you. Keep the ball rolling. It can’t get harder than this trust me.

A little bit of effort, a little bit of “it’s okay to let things be the way they are” & a little of “I still can” will definitely keep you going. Having said that, 2020 had to be one of the most knowledgeable year of my life, for all the lessons it taught, starting from culinary skills to career to relationships to self help, all of it. But No, I cannot live another 2020. Hands down, I’m ratting out.

Wishing you all a better October, November and December. 😀 Do let me know your comments 🙂

Yours insanely,. Hamsa

Are you a good friend?

It’s the lockdown era. The tough times no one had ever imagined they’d have to live through. But here we are, counting the quarantine days and sighing ourselves into the coming days, whether or not we like it.

With all the social distancing norms in place, it’s absolutely hard for people who’ve never been on house arrests, stay-at-home days etc to cope with the ongoing social interaction crisis. Yeah, I’m one of them too 😀

That brings me to the question of friendships and relationships during this tough distancing days. As much as we’re strictly forbidden to have hangouts and meet ups, we certainly do have the liberty of digital interactions to its fullest extent. And not so surprisingly, people are now beginning to judge a friend or an acquaintance based on whether or not they’re keeping in touch with you on a regular basis.

Isn’t that a little too mindless and harsh? I bumped into a few memes made on the same lines. One of them went like “If you’re not checking in on me during lockdown, you ain’t even my friend”. A friend hasn’t checked on you doesn’t make them any less of a friend. Maybe they’ve got their priorities set right. Maybe they’ve been going through tough times on their own. Or maybe they just thought the same thing about you , that you’re gonna check on them?

All you need to do is stop being self centered and stop making everything about yourself. It’s only foolishness to evaluate a good friendship based on situations like these which aren’t in favour for anybody. How reasonable is it for one to make conclusions during such unforeseen circumstances. Totally Not.

So, go ahead, and call, text, email that friend, make plans well ahead of time for there are best days yet to come and memories worth cherishing yet to be made. Keep that vibe going, even if you aren’t physically together.

To Buds and BFFs ❤️

Instant regret.

Ever had an instant regret?

You have been meaning to do something or say something to someone for quiet a long time. You give it so much thought that you keep procrastinating it excessively and incessantly. It could be an unseen fear of failure or just lethargic behaviour that stops you from taking that leap.

Then one fine day, one fine hour, you magically gather some unseen courage out of nowhere to go ahead and do the task or spill out those chained thoughts off your mind.

At that very point of time, you have no consideration of the consequences or of the manner of response it is going to fetch you. You’re in that zeal of an hormonal rush, adrenaline to be precise, you just take off and do it.

Two things can happen.

1. You win

2. You learn

You either achieve every iota of result that you’ve thought of positively and that makes you confident and content.

Or, you learn from your mistake and make appropriate corrections, take a note of precautions that you may have to take the next time you repeat such a task. And this my friend, has to make you stronger, a little more confident than you are when you win, a much better person than you were before, and wiser.

Although, there’s an unstoppable instant regret that the mind incurs. As much as you were strong willed to take up that task, you are vigorous enough to shove that regret off your head and beat it down. Nothing is as powerful as the mind is, for it is capable of turning the impossible into possible.

Yes, there is no failure, only learning. The very experience of knowing and realising what your wrongdoings are, is your major source of strength and your strong suit.

This might be a little inclined towards unreal optimism, but in the hindsight, it opens your mind to a huge chunk of yourself that you didn’t know existed all this while.

Go ahead, take that road which you fear the most.

Stronger, the better! ✌️

Father’s Day! 👨‍👧‍👦

Here’s a day to recall and remember all the fabulous things our dads have done for us and the abundant love they’ve showered on us so we could be happy, always!

So, talking about dads, my father is my hero, my guide, my crime partner, my advisor, my friend, my protector and all other great things a man can be. Daughters occupy a special place in their father’s hearts and That comes along with some uber privileges that our male siblings don’t get.

From birthdays to outings, apparel to stationeries, food to pocket money, daughters have an upper hand. Isn’t that awesome?!

A father may be too strict, too lenient, too dominating, too possessive, too protective and it all comes down to the love and care that he has on his kids. He is insecure , afraid, frightful, worried, anxious, about his child’s life and yet so loving and caring that there isn’t a single day when he sleeps without knowing how the day has been for his child. And, that’s what makes him a gentleman!

And it’s rightfully said that, A father is someone who you’ll look upto no matter how tall you grow. 🙂

If I am able to write a post for him today, it’s the sweet fruit of all his efforts to get me educated, and be independent. Not to forget his best advices throughout my life. The only person who I can run to and count on irrespective of the concern, is him.

This day, I thank him with all my heart for all the selfless love shown to me for without his guiding light I’d be lost and clueless.

Thank you for being my guiding light ❤️

Happy Father’s Day 😊

Here’s a great quote to end with 😀

This post is an entry for father’s day contest by kreativemommy

An ode to nature! 💐

The Soothing winds

The rustling of the leaves

The silence of the illuminating moon 

The twinkling of the brightest stars

The moving clouds and the dark sky that’s hidden beneath

The fragrance of the night and the whispers of the flowers that bloom overnight

What have I seen if not for all this, in this short span of my life,

Thanking the almighty for giving me an opportunity to live amidst this amazingly brilliant nature and enjoy it’s perks.

How do I pay back to this awesomeness ,you nature has bestowed upon me 

All I could do is conserve you with care and love ❤ 

Dreams..

All of us have dreams. Dreams that keep our monkey minds occupied atleast for a few hours. Dreams that are the reason for us to wake up every morning with a purpose. Dreams that would change our lives for the good. 

But, what if a dream turns out to put an end to your precious life? What if it turns you into an object full of negativity? What if your dream is your own enemy? 

Well, there are many such unanswered questions in my head right now. For all I know, it would be too late by the time we would realise that a dream or a goal is not meant for us or, is not going to help us grow personally. Before you set out to make those wonderful dreams come true, set your priorities right! Messing with the priorities can mess your life up to an extent that’s unchangeable. 

This, is a sure shot way to achieve your dreams because right priorities are gonna put everything in place at the right time. Delving too much into acheiveing a goal is only gonna leave us stressed and confused. Instead, have a thoughtful & a confident mind. As the saying goes, “Don’t let any small minds convince that your dreams are too big”

Live by this! 
All men dream, but not equally. Those who dream by night in the dusty recesses of their minds, wake in the day to find that it was vanity: but the dreamers of the day are dangerous men, for they may act on their dreams with open eyes, to make them possible.

International Student: A Guide to Study Abroad

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Hello fellow travel lovers!

If you’re an International Student, or you just can’t wait to start packing for your study abroad, this post is for you!

As an international student, you’ve got a lot to soak in within a limited amount of time. Here are a few tips on how to make the most out of your experience studying abroad!

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Mother!

Into the skies I glanced, saw the twinkling stars
So were the Golden studs in her sharp ears
I often questioned her like it was my right
But she patiently answered me with all her might

I demanded every single thing I saw
She calmed me down with a sweet vow
She fed me, played with me, held me
And never let me hurt my knee

She is a wonder woman, A super mom
Having her aside grief had no room
She has magic in her eyes , her words and her touch
To which, nothing in this universe can stand as a match..

She is selfless, full of love & charm
An angel who does no harm
I wish to give her everything that she has showered in me
And see her smile in joy & be forever Happy ♡

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Happy Mothers Day to All the Lovely Mothers! You deserve The Best! 🙂

This post is an entry for mother’s day contest by kreativemommy.